Solving Problems = Leadership

Leadership

Leadership is solving problems. The day people stop bringing you their problems is the day you have stopped leading them. They have either lost confidence that you can help or concluded you do not care. Either case is a failure of leadership. – Colin Powell

I have been reflecting on this quote for months and it has a haunting effect on me. It fuels me to help and lead those around me. My wife, my family, leaders in ministry, young adults, and high school students.

I must teach my leaders to know and understand this truth about leadership as well. To do that I must live it. Speed of the leader speed of the team.

They Went With Haste

Luke 2:8-20: talks about the shepherds praising and glorifying God. Praising God is worshiping him without holding anything back. At church this morning I recognized my love and passion for worshiping God without holding anything back. I have always known this but it was stirred up once again in my heart. Why is it that fear of man causes me to hold back? Always concerned about what other people think. This does not bring glory to God. Pastor Ron talked about taking a step of faith. The shepherds went with haste, will I take a step of faith with haste.

With haste simply means to move or act swiftly. Instead of sitting on what the Lord is asking me to do will I move quickly on it?

Snow Globes and Quality Time

It’s fascinating how the simplest things will mean the most to my children. Making snow globes with them today has been a blast. Sadly, Amber has been sick all day and I feel the weight of what she does everyday. Preparing breakfast, lunch and dinner for four children is a lot of work. I must remember to affirm her and make sure she knows how much I appreciate what she does. I must also find new ways to help lighten the load for her when I am at home.

What The Lord Is Teaching Me Right Now

What the Lord is teaching me right now – Don’t resist my leading. Humble yourself and allow my hand to guide you.

Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, (Colossians 3:12 ESV)

The Lord’s Embrace

“The thrusting away of His arm is the only reason we are not embraced.” George Herbert

When a father reaches out to embrace his child, does he force the child even as the child resists? Can we resist the Lord and his embrace, comfort, love? What about irresistible grace? Do we have a choice?

Really like this quote, it makes me think.

Swallow Your Pride

This is the moment when depression, embarrassment, regret, and any other self-deprecating feelings I can list come to the surface.

I began this blog last year wildly ambitious and undeterred by things like “reality.”

I set out to accomplish thirty one missions in year thirty one of my life. Unfortunately I only wrote about sixteen missions and what’s worse, I didn’t even complete half of them over the past year. I could list a number of excuses why things dropped off but that’s just being lazy.

I have avoided returning to this blog hoping I could just ignore it and maybe it would just go away, however it has been a nagging thorn in my side. A reminder of the things I have attempted and did not achieve. To make matters worse I celebrated my thirty second birthday yesterday and that’s when I knew I couldn’t avoid it any longer.

So what to do now?

Swallow my pride, admit defeat and move on. I really love blogging and writing about whatever is on my heart and the experiences of life as a follower of Christ, husband of one wife, father of four children, pastor of high school students and young adults, and being obsessed with food.

I will take some time to re-evalute this blog and figure out the direction it will be headed in and would love to have any of you out there join me in this journey.

Thanks

John

Discipline, Not Desire, Determines Destiny

Wow. It has been a while. I will be honest January was a little crazy and then…

I got lazy.

It’s true. I knew all of the missions I had already started and many more that I wanted to accomplish in this year but I was lazy. I didn’t ‘feel’ like writing and the longer it stretched out the more I didn’t want to continue these missions I had set out to do.

Yesterday was the first time someone tweeted me and asked what was up. That, and my wife gently asking me when I was going to ‘get back to blogging,’ helped spur me out of the slump.

I heard a great quote and I don’t know where it’s from but it says “Discipline not desire determines your destiny.”

I have a lot of desire. Maybe you’re like me you get really motivated and say to yourself “_____ must change,” or “I will accomplish _____.” Desire is great but without discipline those things will never happen.

I am working on daily disciplines and choosing the things are not the easiest or most enjoyable.

Choose to take time to spend with the family.

Choose to shut off the TV and go for a run or read a book.

Choose to respond to that text/email/phone call.

Choose to eat the healthy food and not the junk.

Choose to woo my wife even when I am tired and stressed.

It all starts with a choice.

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Top Three – Ep 4

Top Three – Food

Steak

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lasagna

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pad Thai

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

See my other Top Three’s

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9 Reasons I Love my Wife – AKA Happy Anniversary

The Hinger Family

Nine years ago today the #2 ranked Ohio State Buckeyes shocked the #1 Miami Hurricanes in a double overtime victory for the BCS championship.

I only know this because all the guys in my wedding party were constantly trying to find a TV to check the score.

It was nine years ago today that I married the love of my life. We were married at the gorgeous Herrington Inn in Geneva, IL on January 3rd 2003. On one hand it feels as though it has only been moment since we committed to love one another until ‘death do us part,’ and on the other hand there has been so much ‘life’ that has occurred that it is shocking it has only been nine years.  Either way, I am thankful for the past nine years and thrilled to call Amber my wife.

Why is she so great?

I am glad you asked, here are 9 Reasons why I love my wife:

1. Amber is Beautiful – From the day I first met Amber to today she has only grown more and more beautiful. From her strikingly blue eyes and dark brown hair to her infectious smile I am daily reminded that I am a lucky man. Her beauty goes far deeper than the surface as you will see in the rest of these reasons.

2. Amber is Selfless – I have never met someone who puts others before themselves as much as Amber. It’s what makes her an amazing mother, someone that people feel they can open up to, and a joy to be around. I am continually reminded of my selfishness in contrast as I do things to benefit me and whatever she does is for the betterment of someone else.

3. Amber is Passionate – When Amber is fired up about something you will know. Since she is so selfless she has a heart for others and is willing to fight for those who do not have a voice. She is passionate about her family, her relationship with God, and people who bike on the road instead of the sidewalk (sorry babe, I had to).

4. Amber is Funny – She is one of the wittiest, sarcastic people I know. I am usually on the receiving end of said wit, but still I am continually laughing when we are together. What she finds the funniest is scaring the crap out of me. I never know if she is hiding around the next corner ready to pounce and freak me out. I have slowly come to appreciate and expect it.

5. Amber is Smart – Amber knows a lot about everything. I am not kidding. She has a quick mind an

d can hold her own in any conversation. I am always impressed by her wisdom that far exceeds her years. She should have been a lawyer.

6. Amber is Spontaneous – One of the best attributes about Amber is her spontaneity. At the spur of a moment we could be in the car driving to DeKalb for some corn festival or headed in to the city to find a little bakery that she discovered. I love it. It keeps things fresh. You never know when a family wide wrestling match might ensue with Amber as the instigator. Don’t ever change, Amber.

7. Amber is Creative – She has the most amazing ideas. She comes up with ideas all the time. I will give you one example. She has an amazing gift when it comes to cooking or baking. If you have been to our house for dinner or dessert you know what I am talking about. The difference between Amber and myself is that I have to follow a recipe to the exact specifications, no deviations or additions. Whereas Amber will create when she cooks. She doesn’t follow a recipe she just knows what to do. She will see a dish at a restaurant and be able to recreate it at home and it’s better than what we paid money for.  It’s wonderful and I have a waistline that proves it.

8. Amber is Competitive – It’s how we met. Playing volleyball and she would not stop trash talking me. She was competitive. It was all in good fun but that is what made me seek her out and find out more about this girl. We have been playing games ever since and she loves to beat me whenever she can.

9. Amber is a Motivator – Amber has a gift to be able to speak into peoples lives and motivate them to do something greater. She has been my greatest supporter and enragement. She is constantly seeing things in me that I don’t see myself and stirring me up to achieve greater things. I am not the only who has benefitted from her, there are countless numbers of people who have sat down for coffee with her and come away refreshed and encouraged.

I could go on about how amazing my wife is but I’m sure you need to get back to work now.

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New Year’s Resolutions, Missions, and Blogging

I took a bit of a break over the holidays from writing and it was wonderful.

Family. Food. Christmas cookies. Games. New Year’s Eve/Day.

I loved every minute of it.

Now with the New Year it is the perfect time to jump back into the Missions and what I am hoping to accomplish in this thirty first year of my life.

I am excited about what 2012 has to bring. There is anticipation in the air around our house that something big is going to happen this year.

What are your resolutions or missions this year? Let’s make it happen together.

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